Is your marriage a flowing river or a stagnant pond?
Your marriage should be like a flowing river. Fresh, moving around and finding ways around obstacles. Your marriage should never be like a still pond of water that just exists as the mold and moss collects along its banks. Like a flowing river your marriage should always be moving forward.
Unfortunately, many marriages become like a pond over the years. The days of being a flowing river have slowed leaving you and your spouse wondering where to go, and whether to exist at all. Your marriage continues to exist with little or no pleasure, but you know there is a flowing river ready to be let loose.
What should you do? Sit down together, talk about the stagnation in your marriage, and talk about how to give it a new life. If you are harboring feelings that are stopping the river from flowing you need to talk to your spouse. I will admit it is hard to take the first step, but worth it.
Are you not sure how you will come across as you dive into some deep and intimate issues? Talk openly with an accountability partner (same gender), pastor, marriage coach or counselor. Any of these folks can help you arrange your thoughts as well as help you move through a personal blockade.
As for me, Tony speaking, every time that I have had to take that first step it’s been a bit nerve racking. My hands get damp, my heart beats faster, and I get short of breath. I’m nervous of how Alisa will respond to the conversation. Fortunately, we have been able to discuss our issues and then work through them. Over the years we have had less BIG discussions as our river (conversations) flow each day, week, and month.
Is your river flowing today?