Many relationship problems begin with poor communication. Couples often feel that their partner should know what they are thinking and how they feel so do not communicate and then wonder why they feel neglected and under valued.
How many people decide not to tell their partner something just because they don’t know how to say it and then the problem just eats away at the relationship until there is no relationship left? What a waste, just the sheer ability to share a problem can make what seemed to be an insurmountable issue a tiny little blip on a large horizon.
So whenever you feel stressed or don’t know what to do don’t just bottle it up, talk about it, seek advice and listen to the answer. Don’t keep quiet when you know in your heart a problem has to be aired and don’t put off until tomorrow what has to be sorted today. Tomorrow never comes!!!
Something that Alisa and I have done to help us through these dry spells is to get two 3″x5″ cards and on each card we write down three questions that we’ll ask one another every day. Some questions that might be used are:
What victories have built up our marriage?
Could changing our spending and savings habits make a drastic change in our marriage?
What do I do that attracts you to me?
What blessing have we seen in our marriage?
Tell me about the most exciting thing you did today?
Need more questions, check out 201 Great Questions by Jerry Jones.
Now schedule 15 minutes when the two of you can sit down and ask each other your questions. Really listen to your spouse and hear what they have to say. You’d be amazed at how much you’ll learn about that person you sleep next to every night.